Ideas for Parents

Youth are more likely to grow up healthy when they believe it is important not to be sexually active or to use alcohol or other drugs. 47% of youth surveyed by Search Institute have this asset in their lives. Assets are 40 values, experience, and qualities that help kids succeed. “Restraint” is one of six positive –values assets.

Questions to Ask Yourself

*How often have you discussed sex, alcohol? And other drugs with your child?

*How often does your child come to you for support and advice on these topics?

*Which topics has your child never asked you about?

*How are you communicating your values about sex, alcohol, and other drugs to your child?

Time Together

Three ways to improve communication about sexuality and drug use with your child:

1. Together choose a book on sexuality, alcohol, or other drugs. Both you and your child read it separately and then discuss it together.

2. Be Clear about boundaries, values, and your reasons. Most teenagers are relieved to hear their parents say, “We expect you not to have sexual intercourse or drink alcohol as a teenager.” Explain why, and be open to questions.

3. Look for opportunities to respond to what’s in the media regarding sexuality, alcohol, or other drugs that doesn’t directly involve your child or your child’s friends. Discuss your reaction and ask for your child’s opinion.

Talk Together

Questions to discuss with your child:

• What do you think healthy relationships have to do with restraint?
• Do you feel you’re good at saying no to things that might hurt you or others? Why or why not?
• What are our family’s values in terms of sexual behavior? Drinking alcohol? Using other drugs?

For More information contact

Laura Hahn Student Assistant Professional/counselor

At 374-6262 ext 511